- Choose the right person.
As simple as it may sound, but choosing the right person is one of the most important things that constitute the base for your relationship. It is almost impossible to change somebody later in the relationship. You may try as hard as you can and hope that one day this person will eventually act the way you want, but it is highly unlikely. If there is any personality traits that bother you, keep in mind they are not going to disappear and will probably magnify with the age.
Problems with addictions should be discovered and discussed at the early stages of your relationships, otherwise you may end up in an insurmountable nightmare.
- Don’t rush it.
As people say a quick decision may speed you into disaster. Don’t try to force the natural order of the events. Take your time to explore your partner, to learn how to deal with him and to find the solutions to the problems that appear. If you manage to build strong relationship in the beginning, you will have a good and loving family together in the future.
- Listen to each other.
Listen and, moreover, hear other person’s needs and messages. You need to learn what he or she tries to say. Don’t be judgmental and don’t confuse listening and discussion or problems solving. Try to support your partner in the conversation, suggest if he or she wants advice to how solve the problem. Show your care and participation. You can comment occasionally, however, doing that try to set aside your personal feelings and emotions.
- Spend time apart.
It may sound selfish, but all people need their own time and space. Being for 24 hours with each other eventually leads to the arguments over small things that will irritate you more and more in a long run. Short separation, on the contrary, helps you to have some freedom and makes you miss each other a little bit. Thus, you can keep your relationship more interesting and have more new things to talk about with each other.
- Give gifts.
Giving gifts shows your partner that you’ve been thinking about him or her when you were not around. It doesn’t have to be something expensive. A simple card or a box of chocolates, something from your heart will show how import your partner is for you. Giving gifts as well as receiving them will make you both feel good for the rest of the day.
- Go on dates.
A romantic dinner just for you two or evening spend together in the cinema will keep your relationship exciting. Don’t wait for special occasion, invite your loved one to the picnic in the park or prepare a nice dinner. Just because you are dating for a while doesn’t mean that your life should become routine.
- Plan for the future together.
Visualize where you both want to be in 5 or 10 years. Discuss your expectations and dreams together and how to achieve all these. Ask each other for advice and set a plan how you can get there. Once goals are accomplished, set new ones. It will help you to invigorate your ambitions and to have purpose to develop your relationship.
- Work on your relationship.
Relationship is a hard work. In order to build long lasting relationship you should be committed every day and put your effort in it. It is naive and childish to think that relationships is a blessing from above and you have no influence on that. Every couple encounter problems. However, the most successful of them look for the solution, not for the escape.
- Trust each other.
One of the most important component of successful long-lasting relationships is trust. Without trust relationship don’t have meaning. Build trust to your partner on how reliable he or she was in the past and not on the unproven future promises.
- Don’t cheat.
Cheating can be devastating for your relationship. Even if your partner is a forgiving person, in a long run your cheating will always come out in the conflict between you two. On the other hand, why would you cheat if you are satisfied with your relationship? Instead of trying to escape form your problems into the relationships on the side, why not try to improve your existing relationship. Discuss problems with your partner and find a reasonable solution that satisfy you both.