Before you think about how to motivate your child it is important to understand what motivation itself is. The Business Dictionary (http://www.businessdictionary.com) defines motivation as internal and external factors that stimulate desire and energy in people to be continually interested and committed to a job, role or subject, or to make an effort to attain a goal. So according to this definition we can generally specify motivation as internal or external (intrinsic or extrinsic). Internal motivation, as you can guess is based on self-desire to achieve the goal, external, on the contrary, is characterized by external factors and influenced individual from outside.
It can be challenging to motivate a child and it definitely requires patience and effort, however, the outcome is quite beneficial. Your goal is to develop a long term internal motivation of your child. The approach should be chosen according to the age of a child.
1. Set a good example for your child.
If you don’t behave up to the standards you set for your family, children may consider the rules loose and don’t follow them. Show your child how interesting the world around can be and even cleaning the back yard can be fun. Be consistent and learn new things all the time, your child is going to copy your behavior first of all.
2. Have a conversation with a child.
When a child is old enough you can try to have a meaningful conversation with him. It is essential to a child to understand why something makes sense and why he or she must do it. Ask a child questions about how he feels doing a particular task. Encourage him to share his thoughts with you; it is essential to a child to know that for parents it is also important.
3. Relax your standards.
Sometimes, parents set too high standards and require too much from the kids. They simply try to make up for something they didn’t learn or didn’t have when they were children. Maybe your child is simply tired of numerous extra courses, home works and extra duties. Take into consideration that you cannot require the same performance from a child as from an adult.
4. Express appreciation and praise.
Make sure you appreciate when your child makes progress. It can be tight shoes on his own or well done home work without reminding. When you get appreciation you want to do more and more in this direction. Mostly children like to please parents and to be apprised. It can be powerful way to boost their internal motivation.
5. Let them show their responsibility.
Accept the fact that after certain age children have to learn to be responsible, whether it is home work without external assistance or home duties that they have to do on the regular basis. Consider allowing them to be responsible for cleaning the loan and keep it green without reminding and let them carry responsibility for the outcome.