Communication is the number one thing that you need to have in a relationship, or it’s going to go down hill. You need to make sure that you and your partner are able to have conversations with ease this includes honesty. However, let’s be honest, talking and communicating isn’t the easiest thing for a lot of people to do. If it was no one would need counseling right?
So what can you do to help with those rough times in the relationship if you can’t find the right words? Use the wrong ones. As long as you’re being honest then you’ll likely come out ahead. If you can use the wrong ones and make them sound ridiculous then you’re more set.
To do this, you still need to be open and vulnerable. You still need to open up, but if you use humor, you also have to make sure you aren’t taking yourself seriously. This isn’t the same as not taking your partner’s concerns seriously, or taking the flaws in your relationship seriously. You still need to do those things. It’s a weird balancing act.
Now, not everyone is able to make jokes, so here are a few things you can do to add a bit of humor to your situation, and maybe even make differences in your relationship.
Cut out comics: There are enough comics out there, you can find one and share it with your partner. If you’re going through a rough patch find a relationship based one, and maybe you’ll learn something, or find one that relates to your situation. Comics have been writing about relationship troubles for as long as they’ve been around. There isn’t a short supply, you just need dedication.
Watch comedy movies: Whatever you and your other find humorous together is important. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it will make you BOTH laugh. Laughing releases happy hormones, and when they are released in proximity to someone we care about, the bond becomes stronger.
Play games: People who play together, bond. It’s pretty much seen every where. Now if the two of you are very competitive, then maybe not play a game against each other. Play a game where you’re working together. It actually helps to build teamwork skills too.
These are the top three where you’re going to laugh. If you’re going to laugh, you want to share it, and if you share it you’ll bond, because laughter is contagious. And that’s why when you start laughing with someone you don’t want it to stop. Try it in your relationships as part of your communication and you will see a positive outcome.